It’s so little and so much at the same time
"The best gift is a hug: it fits everyone and no one objects if you return it." Ralph Waldo Emerson
It would seem that after mid-January, all the holidays are celebrated, gifts are given and accepted, stocks of mandarins are eaten, the magical mood went somewhere and the whole thing with Christmas toys, and fluffy Christmas trees are removed. But among the weekdays of the calendar are still, like Christmas tree-pine needles in March under the sofa, holidays that allow us not only to see the beautiful again, but also sometimes able to change ourselves. It is one of such small, but very pleasant and emotional holidays can rightly be considered the International Day of Hugs.
Probably, like most non-standard and interesting holidays, his students came up with it. For almost 50 years, every year, on January 21, humanity has a chance to legally hug anyone and as many as you want. For residents of countries where the climate divides the season into summer and winter, and for us in particular, the date of the holiday becomes very pleasant and even logical. Winter, cold, snow, and here they give such a chance to warm up effectively - to hug! And it’s great: immediately comes to mind another student work, a catchphrase - "The more you hug in January, the more likely it is that on Valentine’s Day - February 14 - you will not be alone." For residents of hot countries, where hugs are deprived of warming functions and purposes, this action is, first of all, a gesture and a sign of friendliness, temperament and love.
In general, if you think about it, there are many options for interpretations and types of hugs. Probably the first association that arises with this word is love, romantic relationships, dates and sighs. Then, quite logical - Freudian. The father of psychoanalysis a few centuries ago argued that the cause of everything should be sought in sexual attraction. As Erich Fromm later argued, Freud’s theory was very superficial, far from the truth, though certainly not unfounded. But still, "Freud’s proviso" is a phraseology that is familiar to many.
The next association is hugs as a form of communication. Everyone knows that communication is not only an exchange of information, but also an exchange of feelings and emotions. There are situations in life when it is difficult to find the right words, sometimes we are overwhelmed by a fountain of emotions, and sometimes - words are not needed at all, they are superfluous. Hugs can also speak. And sometimes this kind of communication is more meaningful and useful than verbal.
In psychology, for example, there is such a phenomenon as "talking hugs." This is when hugs are divided into types, where the criterion is the method of this action. In this case, each type can talk about something. For example, if a person hugs you from behind - it means that his action of the hug he says: "I’m with you. I am the support, the wall, the protection. " And believe me, for those to whom such hugs are addressed, it is much more eloquent than ordinary words, the shudder of the air.
Another and no less important association with hugs is the association of therapeutic action, panacea. "Man needs man" - and this is confirmed even by medical science. It is proved that a few seconds spent in the arms of a loved one can:
- improve mood;
- normalize blood pressure;
- increase self-esteem;
- improve sleep;
- reduce stress;
- encourage and overcome fatigue;
- strengthen immunity;
- protect against infectious diseases;
- prevent the risk of cardiovascular disease;
- prolong life.
It turns out that hugs - a whole biochemical reaction that activates the motor and emotional networks in the human brain. It also promotes the production of hormones of "happiness" - oxytocin and dopamine. That is why the person they hug is a happy person!
In fact, there can be countless associations with hugs. You can agree or disagree with them, argue and prove or not give meaning at all, delve into scientific and metaphysical phenomena and explanations ... But still, one thing is for sure: hugs - it’s just nice! And about pleasant things, probably, it is not necessary to argue. They need to be valued, cherished and remembered. Although, few can remember absolutely all their hugs. Take, for example, our first hugs in life. Here we can speak in general terms, because, in fact, for the first time they take place in the same place and under the same circumstances - in maternity hospitals, when we are born. The first person to hug us is mom. When we are small and screaming, we are hugged by our mother’s warm hands and - miraculously - we are calmed, perhaps this is the basis of the fact that in the future hugs will be our lifeline, our protection and hope for the future. Not only the brain is able to store memories, but the body as well. Sometimes it is tactile memory that brings back memories to a person, brings a person back to life ...
Who knows, maybe right now, at this moment, after a joyless conversation with a doctor who promises to rummage through his shoes and robe in the deserted and cold corridor of the intensive care unit, she will open the heavy door of the ward and enter. For a few minutes she will convince herself that those tubes, sensors, complicated medical devices, hoses on her baby’s body, are just a hospital protocol necessity, not what His life depends on. She will silently approach Him, her baby, and once again very gently and tenderly embrace. And maybe this time the tactile memory of her baby will give a signal to the brain. She will not hear the doctor’s footsteps and his congratulations. She will cling to her baby and listen to the rhythm of his heartbeat: "He will live! He will definitely live! ”
I believe in this, I believe that sometimes one hug is not enough for a full and long-awaited recovery. I believe that the more often we hug our children, the less often they will get sick, and the happier their childhood will be.
Give each other smiles, joy, tenderness and your love! Sometimes a person needs so little, but this "little" can do a lot.
Kateryna Stebelska
It would seem that after mid-January, all the holidays are celebrated, gifts are given and accepted, stocks of mandarins are eaten, the magical mood went somewhere and the whole thing with Christmas toys, and fluffy Christmas trees are removed. But among the weekdays of the calendar are still, like Christmas tree-pine needles in March under the sofa, holidays that allow us not only to see the beautiful again, but also sometimes able to change ourselves. It is one of such small, but very pleasant and emotional holidays can rightly be considered the International Day of Hugs.
Probably, like most non-standard and interesting holidays, his students came up with it. For almost 50 years, every year, on January 21, humanity has a chance to legally hug anyone and as many as you want. For residents of countries where the climate divides the season into summer and winter, and for us in particular, the date of the holiday becomes very pleasant and even logical. Winter, cold, snow, and here they give such a chance to warm up effectively - to hug! And it’s great: immediately comes to mind another student work, a catchphrase - "The more you hug in January, the more likely it is that on Valentine’s Day - February 14 - you will not be alone." For residents of hot countries, where hugs are deprived of warming functions and purposes, this action is, first of all, a gesture and a sign of friendliness, temperament and love.
In general, if you think about it, there are many options for interpretations and types of hugs. Probably the first association that arises with this word is love, romantic relationships, dates and sighs. Then, quite logical - Freudian. The father of psychoanalysis a few centuries ago argued that the cause of everything should be sought in sexual attraction. As Erich Fromm later argued, Freud’s theory was very superficial, far from the truth, though certainly not unfounded. But still, "Freud’s proviso" is a phraseology that is familiar to many.
The next association is hugs as a form of communication. Everyone knows that communication is not only an exchange of information, but also an exchange of feelings and emotions. There are situations in life when it is difficult to find the right words, sometimes we are overwhelmed by a fountain of emotions, and sometimes - words are not needed at all, they are superfluous. Hugs can also speak. And sometimes this kind of communication is more meaningful and useful than verbal. In psychology, for example, there is such a phenomenon as "talking hugs." This is when hugs are divided into types, where the criterion is the method of this action. In this case, each type can talk about something. For example, if a person hugs you from behind - it means that his action of the hug he says: "I’m with you. I am the support, the wall, the protection. " And believe me, for those to whom such hugs are addressed, it is much more eloquent than ordinary words, the shudder of the air.
Another and no less important association with hugs is the association of therapeutic action, panacea. "Man needs man" - and this is confirmed even by medical science. It is proved that a few seconds spent in the arms of a loved one can:
- improve mood;
- normalize blood pressure;
- increase self-esteem;
- improve sleep;
- reduce stress;
- encourage and overcome fatigue;
- strengthen immunity;
- protect against infectious diseases;
- prevent the risk of cardiovascular disease;
- prolong life.
It turns out that hugs - a whole biochemical reaction that activates the motor and emotional networks in the human brain. It also promotes the production of hormones of "happiness" - oxytocin and dopamine. That is why the person they hug is a happy person!
In fact, there can be countless associations with hugs. You can agree or disagree with them, argue and prove or not give meaning at all, delve into scientific and metaphysical phenomena and explanations ... But still, one thing is for sure: hugs - it’s just nice! And about pleasant things, probably, it is not necessary to argue. They need to be valued, cherished and remembered. Although, few can remember absolutely all their hugs. Take, for example, our first hugs in life. Here we can speak in general terms, because, in fact, for the first time they take place in the same place and under the same circumstances - in maternity hospitals, when we are born. The first person to hug us is mom. When we are small and screaming, we are hugged by our mother’s warm hands and - miraculously - we are calmed, perhaps this is the basis of the fact that in the future hugs will be our lifeline, our protection and hope for the future. Not only the brain is able to store memories, but the body as well. Sometimes it is tactile memory that brings back memories to a person, brings a person back to life ...
Who knows, maybe right now, at this moment, after a joyless conversation with a doctor who promises to rummage through his shoes and robe in the deserted and cold corridor of the intensive care unit, she will open the heavy door of the ward and enter. For a few minutes she will convince herself that those tubes, sensors, complicated medical devices, hoses on her baby’s body, are just a hospital protocol necessity, not what His life depends on. She will silently approach Him, her baby, and once again very gently and tenderly embrace. And maybe this time the tactile memory of her baby will give a signal to the brain. She will not hear the doctor’s footsteps and his congratulations. She will cling to her baby and listen to the rhythm of his heartbeat: "He will live! He will definitely live! ” I believe in this, I believe that sometimes one hug is not enough for a full and long-awaited recovery. I believe that the more often we hug our children, the less often they will get sick, and the happier their childhood will be.
Give each other smiles, joy, tenderness and your love! Sometimes a person needs so little, but this "little" can do a lot.
Kateryna Stebelska